Freud liked to collapse distinctions:
masochism is the continuation
of sadism (“nothing but”), in which
one’s own person takes the place

of the sexual object; so looking
is analogous to touching; is based
on touching, is base in so far forth;
but neither the lingering at the touching

nor the lingering at the looking
satisfies the libido, the lust;
not the hunger, not the seeking,
not the loss, not the original

impulse or itch; here, there is no
base to touch, however corporate
the large series of factors may be
(conscience, castration complex),

however hard it is to believe
that a man who doesn’t recognize you
two hours after meeting you
will recognize himself forty-three